Big Boy Beds

It took us awhile but around the first of the year we finally moved our boy into his toddler bed. We bought one of those cribs that transforms, with a bunch of cuss words from dad and moving some screws around, but we finally did it.

The reason we waited for so long was because we have some friends whose boy won’t go to sleep unless they are sitting/laying there next to him.  They told us it usually takes an hour to an hour and a half for him to go to sleep.  This flat out scared us. We cherish (covet?) our time after our boy goes to bed.  It’s our time to unwind, catch up with each other…just have some adult time!  But at a friends house where he sometimes spends time, he’s slept in a normal sized bed and had no issues.

So here we are a few months down the road and we’ve had no problems.  Additionally we thought he might crawl out of bed when he wakes up…but he doesn’t.  For instance this morning he woke up around 5:30 and just sat there sang for a bit while I showered.  I got to thinking how easy it would have been for him to get out of bed and come into the room and wake us up!

I’d say that we are lucky.  For those parents looking to make this change in beds, I’m not sure how it will go.  I hope it goes as well as it did for us.


The tech industry

I’ve worked in the tech industry since 1998.  I’ll spare you the details, for now, of how I got started in this field.  I’ve seen many companies come and go.  And as long as I’m looking back I’ll jokingly say I’ve lost over a million dollars (hello Yahoo stock at the early 2000’s and Netflix).  As great as this industry is there’s a ton of pressure for people to continually be trying to break new barriers with new technology, stay educated or become and entrepreneur.  Or maybe that’s just me!

Until recently, 2010, I’ve spent most of my time working on the web and I do enjoy working with it.  However I feel like every 3 months I’ve got to change/upgrade my skill set to be using X technology rather than Y technology.  Or at this point I should have updated the server to use a newer technology that eeks out a few CPU cycles.  I find it totally maddening.  I’m not saying that I’m not out there trying to learn something new, but the speed at which things change makes it nearly impossible to keep up and anyone who does manage to keep up most likely works a TON of hours.

If by some chance you’re one of these people that feel like you’ve got to be doing this constantly I’m here to give you permission to slow down and chose to do things are you own pace.  Don’t let others, or the technology, take you out of your comfort zone when your not ready. I’m not saying that you should never stretch yourself to learn something new, but chasing the ‘new shiny’ will drive you totally bat shit crazy.  I’ve been there and I still deal with it every day.  I’m trying my hardest to slow down and not follow the shiny. With a wife and almost 2 kids, I just don’t have the time to be chasing everything that comes my way or interests me.  I’ve tried and all it’s done so far is add my gray hair.

Take a deep breath and enjoy your life. Work will be there tomorrow.  In most cases the technology you use today will be there tomorrow and will work as well.


So I’ve been trying to write here every day for thirty straight days.  I’ve missed 1 day so far and yesterday I put up a rather short post.

I’m still bound and determined to do that. But there’s distractions that come up.  I mean out of no where.  I don’t know if this is a good thing or a bad thing but they are coming up and I find myself saying “It really would be okay to watch the last few episodes of Breaking Bad rather than write”.  However I’m making an effort to not do that.  As I may have discussed on here previously, or not, my dream job is to be an author.  I don’t think King or Clancy allow themselves to get distracted like that. So I’m trying my hardest to be that way as well.  Although I have no idea where I’m going with my writing, you’ve been seeing all of it here, I’m continuing to put ass in seat and keys on keyboard an hammering something out.  On the plus side, after posting yesterday’s incredibly short post, I felt a bit guilty that I didn’t post more.  I think that’s a good thing but I’m not sure.

Forward we go…perhaps this week some sort of direction will appear and I can move in that direction.

Have a good week.

Daddy I don’t worry

It’s been just me and our boy this morning.  Started the morning off with the title of this post.  I’m not even sure how it came up, but he said that.  I was like ‘wow where did you come up with that’.

As he’s about to get up I’ll keep it short.  I’m a horrible worrier.  Part of it has to do with being the provider for the family.  Part of it’s just me. But what would the world be like if we quit worrying and just lived?

Enjoy your weekend.


48 Million

“So you won the lottery?” Jacob asked.
“Yeah.  Pretty cool huh,” I said.
“Sooo what are you going to do with it?”
“Not really sure.  It hasn’t all sunk in.”
“I know what I’d do,” Jacob offered.
I went back to looking at my computer screen trying to figure out why someone’s e-mail wasn’t working.  When I looked up he wasn’t there.  He’d gotten the hint.
Ever since my name had become public knowledge that I’d won the lottery there had been no shortage of people sending me e-mails, or calling me on the phone asking and pleading for money because of some circumstance beyond their control.  I felt sorry for them, I really did, but it was my money.  I’d won it fair and square.  And if they really wanted to know, I didn’t yet have the money yet.  It was supposed to be deposited to me sometime in the net 7 to 10 business days.
Once the money was mine, I wasn’t sure what I was going to do.  My boss had asked if I was going to continue working and to be truthful I didn’t know.  For the time being I had planned on continuing to work.  I felt as if nothing hand changed, but wherever I turned people thought I had changed. All that had changed was my bank account and it had more zero’s in it.

Out of the corner of my eye I saw my boss rounding the corner.  Him visiting my corner of the building was unusual which usually mean his computer wasn’t working.
“Hey,” He said.
“Morning,” I said.
“How are things going?”
“So far so good.  No fires to put out.”
“That’s good,” He said.  “Say I wanted to ask you about something.”
I knew what was coming next.  Something about my 48 million. I knew what I was going to be doing now.
“Well I’m glad you stopped by. There’s something I wanted to tell you.”
“Oh?” He asked.
“Yeah.  I think it would be best if I moved onto other things.  I feel like I’ve become a distraction and I don’t need to be that.  Also I’m sure someone else could use the money.”
“Well money doesn’t go as far as it used to you know.  Your welcome to keep your job,” He said.
“Nah.  I think I’ll move on.  Figure out something else to do.”

This post, 48 Million, is day 8 (I missed day 7…grrr) in what I hope to be 30 straight days of blogging here. A wide variety of topics will be covered. 

Two and three quarter years old

Everyone tells you about the terrible two’s.  You think it’s not going to happen to you.  It’s not like a switch is flipped on when your young person turns two years old.  It could be two and a half or two and three quarters like ours.

Keeping your cool with a little person isn’t easy and there’s many times I find myself second guessing myself.  The conversation in my head goes something like this.

“Should I have done that?”
“Is that going to be his first memory and is he going to hate me for the rest of his life?”

Stuff like that.  But you’ve got to do your best and move on.  I think even if I’d read every book on the subject of raising a little person I’d still be flopping around like a fish out of water at times.  Take this scenario that happened to my wife yesterday.

She was shopping at our local grocery store.  Just a small trip and she was putting the cart away and was going to carry the groceries out.  When out of now where our little one takes off like a bat out of hell.  Out the front of the store and past a armored truck that blocked the view from anyone seeing him (thankfully no car’s were coming) and down the road.  It was snowing and icy in the parking lot and my wife has already taken one tumble, additionally our boy likes to play chase.  Luckily he stopped before he got hurt, but it was very nerve racking for my wife.  I’m not sure what I would have done in that situation, but I’d probably be nominated for worst dad of the year 2014.  I don’t think those situations are in any books.

If someone is here that’s got the terrible two’s going on I’d like to say it’s going to get better, but I’ve heard it gets worse.  Three’s apparently pretty bad and by the time they get to four they are actually a little human being.  So keep your head up, take an extra patience pill each day and cherish each moment, because they are really only with us for 18 years (18 summers) and then gone.

This post, Two and three quarter years old, is day 6 in what I hope to be 30 straight days of blogging here. A wide variety of topics will be covered. 

Less Complex (simple!)

I deal with a lot of various different pieces of software for the job that pays the bills.  It’s exciting at times, but other times it can be frustrating because you’re looking for that one command to change one little thing and you just can’t find it because it’s buried underneath a lot of different things that you don’t need at that time.

This dilemma got me to thinking awhile back.  Did we really need all of these ‘extra’ things in order to run the business? I’d venture out and say that 90% of these ‘abilities’ built into these programs are not needed or even used.  So why put them there?  Well I think it’s because the customers ask and a company can’t tell their customer no can they?  I think they can if they provide and alternative solution that doesn’t require a ton of extra steps. By simplifying I’d estimate that we could cut down on a lot of expenses and errors.  Would it be perfect?  Probably not out of the box but over time I think it would work for what we needed it to do.  And before you say this is because I work in a brick and mortar company I’d tell you I’ve seen the same thing in internet and software companies.

On the flip side, having never been a business owner, maybe I would be able to say ‘no’ to a customer request.  I think there’s a time to say ‘yes’ and a time to say ‘no’.

This post, Less Complex (simple), is day 5 in what I hope to be 30 straight days of blogging here. A wide variety of topics will be covered.